Discussion Thread 🎯 Tuesday 1 April 2025

If you haven't seen it yet, please read the Mod announcement.
- I've read it before.
- Wow, that was a real wake up call, thank you!
- Really important message worth reminding everyone about every once in a while. A must-click. Good one.
- Wow, thank you
- This was very instructive. Now you know the rules and so do I
  
  Nice one
- Bumbaclot
- Oh man, that was really informative! Thanks for the link!
- Téir ag feadail!
- Goddammit 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

I found $50 in a jacket pocket!!!!
I don't even remember when I did it lol
Pizza for dinner hahaha
- Hell yes
- Reverse ADHD tax!
  I put money in something many months ago with the intention of forgetting about it and finding it later. I have forgotten where I put it which is a start
  
  That's exactly what it is lol
  And yet, the 20 I put away for morning coffees at the new job disappeared magically hahaha
- That’s 1.5 pizzas in today’s economy.
  
  1.3 sadly :(

A lot to take in, but so far so good!

Here we go. Left pretty early just in case. Give me time to have a decaf before hand.
Pretty tired but will try to nap on the train.
Enjoy your day everyone :)
Edit: I am an hour early lol
Thanks for the kind wishes everyone ❤️

So this place is way bigger than I expected. I thought it was a medium sized family owned place but it's part of some massive fucking 8bn group of companies.
Changes the dynamic a bit.
Everyone was nice, CEO took me and 2 others out for lunch which was cool.
It's day 1, so don't really have much of a real opinion.
But so far so good.
- Sounds like lotsa opportunities to move around the org and gain skills - maybe leadership skills too. Sky is limit here.
- "Not obviously bananapants" is a win for week one.
- Good vibes are a good sign. Lets hope the size is a benefit rather than a hinderance
- Lunch on the first day is a good sign on the culture, making the effort to welcome you.

Sleep study done. Pretty shit at the start with the wires. Got woken at 2pm because apparently was having breathing trouble so they tried CPAP. I reckon I got deep sleep for the first time in a LOOONG time after that. 😳 Now have to wait for full results.
I did keep laying there thinking "no-one knew who I was until I put on the mask"....

Happy April Fools Day everyone.

I knew a few of you have older kids. Do any of you also have strained relationships with your parents? If so, what did you do differently? Just been thinking a bit (ok, a lot) over the past couple of days about how if I have the kind of relationship with my kid as my parents have with me I think It'd destroy me.
- I did not have kids because of my relationship with my parents. I knew this when I was a kid myself.
  
  Agreed and same. Knew I didn't want kids when I was in kindergarten and that never changed. I can't even say it's because of my parents, because they were good for the first 10yrs of my life, but it just never interested me.
  
  Interesting. I saw it more as a drive to not F up myself. I know how it could be if I shit the bed, and the damage it can cause.
- My mum often wonders why she has barely a relationship with any of her 5 kids, of which I'm the youngest. However, her eldest is on life support with a couple of days left and she's already declared that she won't be going to the funeral because "you don't know how much she's hurt me!" (yes, I do, now grow the fuck up)
  Similar to dumblederp, I saw what my siblings and I went through and decided that along with the fact that I was born without a maternal bone in my body, I wasn't going to risk raising kids and turning out like my parents.
  Sorry, not the answer, but also an opportunity to trauma dump.
  
  some women are born to be mothers. Some are born to be the cool aunt. Some are born to stay as far away from children as possible. It's fucking critical that you discover which one you are before it's too late. Big fat kudos to you for the self awareness many lack.
  
  "you don’t know how much she’s hurt me"
  "But its not ABOUT you you narcissist b****" woulda been my reply there. 100% something my psycho mum would say too btw. Sorry for your loss.
- I am non contact with my father.
  What did I do differently?
  Always listened. Always asked for opinions. Made sure my daughter knew that her needs and wishes are equal to that of the adults. Made sure she knew I was always there and never ever forgot or went back on my word. Made sure she had good sex education. Lots of pocket money so she had freedom to buy anything she needed. Moved to a good area so she had good opportunities.
  So many cuddles, so many I Love You's. No violence or fear.
- I think the specifics of how you raise your kids is less important than whether or not you respect them as individuals that will change, grow and decide their own direction in life. Toxic relationships between parents and children pretty much all boil down to treating the child as if they are subordinate to your own thoughts and feelings. That might be using a child to try to fill gaps in your life (like having children in the expectation that they will provide you with unconditional love), trying to control what they do for work, who they have relationships with etc.
  Being responsive to your child's wants and needs and building a relationship based on that will always work far better than envisaging a relationship you want and trying to fit your child into that vision. The same applies to any relationship really - getting to know each other and working to create a mutually satisfying relationship over time takes both work and openness to knowing each other.
  
  Meet them where they are? Yeah agreed. I think support is critical though.
- I lucked out with my parents. Not the warmest household but shit got done. As a kid was all about the garden with the ol' man, and garden / shopping and cooking with mum. Also playing golf as a fam helped. Activities with your kiddo(s) as they grow up I think is pretty key. I don't think they had that so tried to 'undo' that part of their upbringing.
- My wife hasn't spoke with her dad in over 20 years and with her mum for about 6 years now.
  We both recognized what our parents did that was wrong (to us at least) and we tried to avoid repeating those mistakes.
  We are also on the same page 99% of the time and back each other up.
  From day 1 we put our kids first. Not our own parents and their wants, but us and the kids. That's probably the biggest one.
  We don't care if our parents aren't happy with something, as long as we and the kids are happy.
  Example - wife's family is big into giant family gatherings (weddings, birthdays, engagements etc). We are not. So we used to skip a lot of them, or leave early.
  Received a fair bit of flack from relatives, and we just told them to shove it (politely). If my kid is tired or bored, we leave. Simple.
  
  We are also on the same page 99% of the time and back each other up.
  How essential is this part? My wife supports me on the boundaries with my parents. But on other stuff we are less aligned.
- Growing up my parents were busy working trying to make ends meet. There was no holidays, no luxuries, we had the basics. It wasn't a particularly loving household but they were never cruel or selfish. I have a good relationship with my mum (my dad has passed) now.
  I feel for people with manipulative and selfish parents. It's not the way it should be.
- Here's a few do's and don'ts
  My mum/dad is my best friend - no
  My mum/dad guilt trip me - no
  My mum/dad set boundaries because they love me and they show me and tell me they love me all the time - yes
- My parents are both dead, and the parenting techniques they employed with me were by today's standards abusive and illegal. Similar story with Mr P, and his relationship with his parents is an example of how not to conduct familial relations, but only to be expected from such beginnings. As we both get older and time passes, it becomes increasingly evident that Mr P & I are not on the same page with a lot of things, in a way I didn't ever anticipate could be possible, and are steadily and irrevocably drifting apart.
  However, everything is a teaching moment, whether it's about what to do or what not to. In any family, some will determinedly model appropriate behaviour and "workshop," explain or discuss when it could've been better. Others are more an example of how not to be, and as such are still potentially useful while being far from admirable.
  I could waffle in about this stuff for ages, but a pertinent thing I heard years ago went along the lines of, "The best part about being an adult is you get to choose which parts of your parents you get to be. You don't have to be your parents." It sounds like you have a more mindful attitude about parenting than previous generations in your family had. You get to build the relationship you want with your kids, we're not condemned to repeat history. My parenting style could not be more different from my parents, and that's a very deliberate choice of mine.
- You won’t because you’re aware of it and motivated to do better. Fucking up is inevitable but good intentions, self reflection, and trying to do better go a very long way
  Edit: Unless you do a massive pendulum swing to overcompensate and ruin things a different way. But you know. Common sense
  
  haha I joked about this the other day. He was sitting on a couch and the mrs said "Dont worry, daddy will let you down" as in off the couch. I laughed and said "never intentionally, but across the span of your life probably a couple of times yeah"

beach pictures
- BEEEEACH!
- I love the lines the tide makes it in the sand, utterly fascinating!
- I really like the first one!
  
  Thanks. The tide was out 🙂
- Kinda oddly homesick 🥲I miss noodling around the beach looking for treasures
  
  I'm really careful what I pick up. No gastropods as they are usually home to little crabs , no cone shells because ouchie.
  I pick up wentletraps ( i look in them very closely ) , ear shells and bits of coral. 🙂

Eye test complete. Slightly bad distance vision, and moderate astigmatism. Getting glasses!
- Sooo.. not as bad as it looked..
  Me --> 🧥 --> 🚪
- Get a brightly coloured glasses case if offered. Bright ones are much much easier to find when you need your glasses.

The contrast solution I drank for my test contained artificial sweetener and I am in pain 😓
Sorbitol will get you every time
- Oh poor Melba. Hope the test give answers and it's worth it.
  
  Thanks.
  I’m wondering though why they would put that in stuff for people with known stomach issues? Same goes for putting lactose in Buscopan and Donnatab.
  shakes head Sadistic.

Ok, I've made a decision on which car to go and look at tomorrow. 🤞
- Good luck hope it’s the one!

Gather round Thread.. for I have a very important question:
Mushrooms (the eating sort). Do you peel or not?
- I put them in as is like a pleb :(
- NEVER! Life is too short to peel mushrooms (quote from the Two Fat Ladies who collectively are my spirit animal). Only I think the quote refers to stuffing mushrooms which life is also too short for. The most a mushroom gets from me is a wipe with a damp paper towel, and not always that if they look clean.
  
  I miss those ladies! I loved how they used to cook wearing all those rings on their fingers.
- I'm not in the "I have time to peel mushrooms" socio economic bracket lol
- Chop coarsely and then scrape directly into the bin
  
  Wrong. Cook in pan after steak and make mushroom gravy
  Or beef and mushroom pie
  Or zap in microwave topped with cheese
- I don't even cut them normally. I just tear them into chunks 🤣
  
  I support this method
- Wash, cut and cook.
  Never considered peeling them.
- Rehydrate, use the stock, bin the rest
- I thought the standard was to wipe with a damp paper towel
- I wash and slice a sliver off the bottom of the stalk. Mr P doesn't wash them, only wipes sometimes. Neither of us peel.
- I first encountered this insane practice in The Bear and to date I maintain: WTF?!
  I can't imagine ever wanting to peel mushrooms, what a tedious task. There's not mush room left once you've peeled them anyway. I imagine most of the flavour and nutrients are probably in the skin or some shit anyway. So, no, I do not peel and never will
  
  Haha I was thinking of the Bear as I was chopping - hence the question. I never peel
- I peel them if I'm making soup, otherwise no.
- Peel them? That's a thing? Lol
  I eat them by the punnet like popcorn 😂
- No way!

All done, now on the way home. We're both stuffed so Hunger Den dinner is on the cards.
Gonna get mein liebe up tomorrow for his first day of his job! I'm so happy and excited for him!!
- Congrats!!! I hope everything goes well for him :)
  
  💜💜💜

I heard Bruno Mars - Uptown Funk on Gold fm. Fair dinkum. Not a joke.
- To be fair, that song is well over a decade old.
  What's a reasonable minimum age for playing on an oldies station, do you reckon?
  
  20 years, minimum
  
  No. No. No. I did not wish to know that.
  
  Good question! I reckon any band or artist that has a "come back" album or tour.
- I still get upset when Robbie Williams comes on Gold, this would have ruined my day…

Meow Meow 🫏
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Just had my psych appt and now my brain is mushy 💀
But I have to gather myself to help my partner get to his ADHD assessment appointment this arvo.
💀💀💀
- Massive hugs
- Hope you can both have some down time tonight, that's a lot for one day!

Now that's it well past midday: what have been people been fooled by today? I clicked on the mod announcement without a second thought and laughed so hard, but also got tricked by a post about a whale shark in the bay. Every year I look forward to what Virgin Australia will come out with, along with Blizzard's WoW patch notes (I wonder if that's still a thing), though I'm often fooled on April 2nd by the posts that happen overnight.
A couple of years ago I saw a cute video of a car that drove around Denver CO with a coffee cup taped to their roof - that's the kinda IRL prank I like, the ones that don't hurt anyone but just cause a "OH!" sort of moment.
- Today when I was out n about I was sitting at lights behind a car, in the left lane and I got beeped (more than once) by the dickhead behind me because it wanted to turn left into the main road. I thought it was a joke cos where the fuck am I going? Up this guys clacker so you can attempt to squeeze past in your bucket of shit. I wasn't fooled.
- The Mod post is the only things I've seen at all. Hoping the otherside of the planet might deliver soon.
- My kid has been rather lax about schoolwork and ambivalent about school overall, so I told him that we had decided to transfer him to butler school.
  I was very pleased with my prank but he was on to it in about 15 seconds
- Last week I tried to eat fake food.
  That is all.
- Nothing will ever beat Red Symons April Fools Day prank about the spaghetti farms of Italy.
  EDIT: sorry that wasn't him - his prank was Drive To Work Day.
- Also, late last year I got fooled by Captain Kate's April Fools video about her cat Bug being able to get around Celebrity Beyond, but mostly because I saw it months after and didn't check the date on the video!

it's still dark 🌃

First day done yesterday. Everything went smooth. Decent crew, spiffy new office (we have a proper coffee machine!!!) with ergo chairs and all that.
Seems there's a lot of work, but it's all well planned with processes and quick approvals.
So I'll be busy, but not frustrated.

The car I wanted to look at tomorrow has been sold ☹️
Now I have to look at more to pick out number 2 option to look at instead. Bugger.

Wattlebirds are chasing the lorikeets offa the flowering carmelia tree. Must be some goodness in those flowers.

Good night everyone 😘

Pinch, punch, first day of the month.
- smack and a tickle for being so quickle

gees, it's pretty quiet here 🙂
and I might go for a walk down the beach 🙂
- BEEEEACH. I went for a beach walk yesterday and it was glorious. The water looked absolutely stunning, but unfortunately we took the car that isn't prepacked with towels and swimming gear.

Dammit, I'm hungry and I have all this prepped food in the freezer but I forgot to take any of it out to defrost. I have a bag of Jerusalem artichokes but cbf waiting to soak + roast. No other veg and need more than instant noods. Guess it's frozen f&c again. Put a box of of veg bolognese in the fridge to defrost for tomorrow night...
Got over yesterday's oncoming-cold feeling only to be SUPER jangly today. I'm going to try and read a damn book tonight rather than watch dumb shit on yt. I've downloaded Project Hail Mary, been meaning to read it for a while...

Heh. Maybe if I bought a grow light with a timer I could ripen things indoors.
Nah. There’s no room and electricity is expensive. I’m not doing all that.
- for shits I actually built a solar powered grow light (it was on the eastern side of the house and supplemented a hydro cage that had the perfect spot right next to the back door...right up against a wall the house itself shaded). 'twas a fun project
  
  I considered solar powered grow lights but still haven’t got round to fixing the tiny setup I have. Constant pain = brain mush
- The LED lights used these days are pretty cheap to run, and you can get cheap usb grow light sets with a built in timer. You just don't want then anywhere you are looking too often, they are often coloured lights which make your vision go funny when you look at them too long.
  I mostly use them for raising summer seeds indoors and growing basil over winter. I wouldn't go overboard in trying to do an indoor setup, but a small system for a few herbs or seedlings is quite affordable these days.
  
  Trying to think if I have any spare space lol

anyone got good recs for duct cleaners? Our locals have shat the bed for me. Definitely want to give them a quick hose out before we start firing up the heater
- Nobody who advertises on FB.
  Mentioning ducts or steam cleaning got you an automatic block for scamming on my old Community group.
- shat
  I have no idea but I just want to thank you for using the correct word.

Cardigan I tried on in store from this season: 57% acrylic, 32% polyester, 8% wool, 3% elastane.
Cardigan I saw on Marketplace potentially from last season: 60% acrylic, 30% nylon, 8% wool, 2% elastane.
Chat says the Marketplace one would be softer but the in store one would be more durable because of the polyester?
- There’s no way to know without feeling them. Both synthetic and natural fibers come in different grades, eg fine wool vs coarse wool. Also what is the knit or weave like, it affects the feel and drape. Just go with the one you like the colour and style of, because that’s the one you’ll get the most enjoyment out of.
  
  agree
  try them on in the store
  
  Thanks! The one in store was super soft, but didn't come in the colour I like. The marketplace one was from a previous season and is a colour I do like, so I think I'll go with that one :)

Drat Boyo😝! I have my birthday prezzie early again because finding a hiding spot in an entire house and shed is apparently impossible. Would be a useless spy. Now I wanna built Lego and have to work for hours still 😿
- observe the person you want to hide something from
  put the object where they never go
  there are common places, men hide things in their car, often where the spare tire is
  women hide things in the laundry, often in the washing powder

The real star of “Uptown Funk” is Mark Ronson
- My pick is Michelle Pfeiffer.

The website is down because of a cache issue. That also means I can't cPanel in to delete the folder. I jumped on support and they temporarily increased my limit so I can hopefully access the hosting and clean things up. This website business is hard work

The car I want to look at is in Moorabbin, so I am going to go a bit early and visit the ocean first. I haven't done that in years 🙂
- Solid choice!! Should be beautiful this morning! Maybe a coffee and a stroll of the Mordy pier? (Psst, you posted this in yesterday's thread)

mph, do I use the Dell R220 as a pfsense or as a hubitat.....
- what the hell, to proxmox for both. I can always peel the pfsense config off later if I want