7d ago

Introverted rule

22 comments

This isn't introvert behavior, introverts are normal people who just spend energy in social situations. This is social anxiety, please stop normalizing this stupid ass take.
- This could absolutely be an introvwrted person with no social energy to spend. What do you think happens whrn an introverts social battery runs out? Shutdown and or/social anxiety.
  
  I'm very much an introvert. If I've been with people all weekend and I'm drained, I definitely need time where I don't need to answer to anyone or I get irritable and stressed.
  If I'm past that point and hungry, I'd just get my food and brush off anyone trying to talk to me. Presumably these are my roommate's friends, so I'm not expected to stick around and socialize.
  I think the key here is presumption of etiquette. My social battery drains by having to consider social behaviors - speaking clearly, planning out what I want to say, paying attention to what people are saying and doing. If I'm just navigating through that space to grab food and return to my room, that's no problem. The issue is if people DO expect me to hang around, or 'chase' me back to my sanctuary space.
- but also if you're bringing home people who others in the household don't want to be around maybe you should talk to them about that and maybe visit your friends instead of them visiting you. I don't have social anxiety but if i had to deal with strangers showing up in my home i'd be completely nonfunctional, because it's my fucking home
  
  Yeah this isn’t about social anxiety this is about intrusion of sanctuary space.
  Out and about? Awesome sure I’ll chit-chat. Friends drop by for a bit? Cool!
  Having a roommate’s acquaintance I barely know in the living room for four hours when I expected to be able to turn off my brain and grab snacks freely without forced small talk? Absolutely the hell not. No. Bad.
  
  Completely nonfunctional? Sorry to burst your bubble but that sounds like crippling social anxiety. Maybe visit elsewhere instead of ever having friends over? Have you ever been in a relationship? That’s extremely selfish.
  
  Thai sounds like you should be exclusively living on your own.
- Idk I feel like it can totally be both. I'd say I'm pretty introverted but definitely don't have social anxiety. I can handle talking to people fine enough, I just really dislike it and would rather not unless they're friends or family. That being said, I'd 1000% prefer to not see strangers in my own home if I can avoid it by just chilling in my room or something.
- No, those texts are from the cat.
  
  Underrated comment
- No u.

After a while it’s not a matter of being introverted anymore. When you show up after 5 hours, people are gonna wonder why you didn’t say hello.
- “Well well look who finally decided to show up!”
  
  Oh God, get out of my childhood.
- or half drunk and generally euphoric to see you again