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Although she appears to be very young, she was born into a long-lived race of elves and has lived for over a thousand years.

Oh, that old chestnut.

It's a great show but Winry does wear unnecessarily revealing clothes. I guess a big deal isn't made out of it. The one that's a major omission is Spy X Family actually

Frieren is very violent. Amazing show, but definitely not for kids.

Bocchi has exactly one fanservice gag I can recall, but it's a fairly tame one. Probably fine, the whole rest of the show has nothing else inappropriate I can think of. It is sub-only though, so I guess it really depends on whether she's fine with reading subtitles?

Delicious in Dungeon, some violence but nothing gory, compared to Frieren I don't think it's too much.

I haven't seen the other one that was mentioned so I can't speak for it.

Honestly I'd say it depends on your daughter and what you think she can handle. I'm not a parent, so it's hard for me to judge. Maybe screen a few episodes for yourself and decide what you think is appropriate?

Edit: Though just to add one more nomination for you, Little Witch Academia immediately comes to mind as a show I think would be absolutely perfect for that age.

I don’t think it glorifies unhealthy relationships but it definitely features them

Why is that sad? The depiction of demons as creatures that are incapable of empathy and exploit human compassion as an evolutionary strategy is interesting and makes for good drama and moral conflicts in the show. I'm honestly tired of the standard plot about demons just being misunderstood poor little babies that humans bully for seemingly no reason. I understand why that is a popular theme - it resonates with most of our own history after all, but it's been done to absolute death.

Creatures with free will and intelligence who evolved those capabilities (and speech) with the sole purpose of being better at hunting humans.

Creatures with free will and intelligence who eat humans. Not because they need to eat humans, mind, they're perfectly fine eating other things, but because they genetically like to kill and eat humans.

Creatures with free will and intelligence who are biologically incapable of feeling emotions like empathy, sympathy, guilt, or remorse. Seriously, some have spent centuries trying to learn how to feel them, and have failed.

Creatures with free will and intelligence who'll be the first to admit that they're better described as savage deceitful beasts, and that it'd be foolish and suicidal to trust them as far as you can throw them.

And, that said, Frieren the character advocates (with extremely good evidence backed reason) for their genocide, but the book and the authors don't seem to do the same thing.

There's plenty of characters that try to get along with demons, or trust them (and often pay dearly for it), and plenty of chapters where we see the demons' point of view and can't fail but to somewhat empathize with them, even if they'd be unable to reciprocate.

At no point do the book or the authors try to make the readers hate demons. They make us fear them, sure, but mostly they make us feel empathy and pity for them.

Hell, the fourth fan favourite character is a demon (and what a fantastic character it is).

(Granted, the third are the mimics, but still.)

And so does Lord of the Rings. It's fantasy, having obviously good people and obviously bad people you kill without remorse is part of the genre.

Frieren reminds me of my readings about the 19th century Texas Rangers (see Cult of Glory (2020) by Doug J. Swanson) and how Native Americans were literally seen as vermin to be exterminated, even if they assisted in exterminating other indigenous. In real life, a lack of communication and 15th century epidemics divided indigenous peoples who could have otherwise defended their sovereignty; once indigenous children learned the conquering host people's language (English) and affirmative action applied to close egregious wealth gaps, indigenous people have proved to be ordinary people with another skin color (evidence: me, a member of the Navajo Nation). Frieren, in contrast, portrays a demon child as being irredeemably evil even though they learn the host language and are given second chances and extra attention (by the Himmel); the author implies there is some cognitive divide due to demons being solitary creatures who raise and teach themselves from a very early age (presumably much earlier than the failed experiment Himmel performed); however, that subtlety isn't emphasized and demons are more akin to starfish aliens than people.

Overall, I think provoking controversy and discussion around this point is valuable because it invites people to debate the nature of Otherness. In which ways can a person be different enough before they stop being people? What exactly are the differences between “person” and “beast”? Is focusing on those differences the root cause of genocide? Do we hesitate to relax the requirements to be considered a person because we dislike the economic consequences? (e.g. the horror of teaching factory farmed animals to speak)

I personally consider demons in Frieren analogous to indigenous before colonizing powers, albeit sustained by their long life spans and tendency to independently discover powerful technology (magic). I doubt the author is thinking very hard along these lines, and so fear they will fall back on tried and true story patterns in which animalistic heathens are purged to make way for civilization. But I hope to be surprised.

you dropped this, /s

I enjoyed Attack on Titan, but halfway through I realized I could literally not root for any of its characters. And by the end, I hated almost all of them.

It was basically "where the hell are they going with that story" more than anything. But it was worth it.