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  • Yeah I must confess I recently went over there and agitated them a bit. I just wanted to see what their deal was because I saw a few of them over here.

    TLDR they are basically like r/thedonald, libertarian types. Use slurs as a badge of honor. Angry, sad people. Fully in favor of defederation. But I get that it's early days, and defederation is a sensitive topic. I just don't see any path to that server becoming something of value that I'd want to interact with.

    • I dont see why defederation is seen as a sensitive topic.

      Its a great feature, designed for specifically this purpose.

      Over time people will migrate between instances and land where they fit. Some people want to be abrasive cunts, and they will land with the other abrasive cunts. Thats great, they have an instance they can do what they want on.

      For the rest of us though, we dont want to see their bad faith articles and abrasiveness on our feeds. No one is being limited in their speech, but they might be limited in their reach. If they want to expand their reach, they can join a more broadly federated instance and ditch the bad faith arguments and abrasiveness.

      Its the kids table at the dinner party. You can join the adults table if you behave in a way that is suitable for the adults, if not go back and play with the kids and everyone is happy.

      • The example that introduced me to federation was like an instance getting overrun with Nazis, and everyone deciding to just cut that instance loose; let it float alone as "the Nazi instance" that nobody has to interact with.

        I thought that stuff like bad actors and assholes was one of the main reasons for the idea of federation, really surprised how many people thought differently

    • Or perhaps you just didn't see those who don't bother engaging in conflict?

      I fully understand why you don't expect to find content there in the future, but is that a good argument to deny access to those who already have?

      Exploding heads have gotten subscribers from here as well. There's an extensive backlog of topics some people find quite important - even if others don't.

    • You were talking to people not even from that instance. You people need to learn how federation works

      • I've already acknowledged that multiple times.

        Your comment is the perfect example of why defederation is even being considered. You're a sad, confused person who is angry at the world and takes it out on other people. One look at your comment history makes that clear.

        We're trying to build an alternative to reddit and it's going to be really hard to do that if we have to fucking drag people like you along with us. You seem to enjoy making other people miserable.

    • If you genuinely think libertarians are equivalent to r/thedonald posters, you have no clue what you're talking about. Which is why defederating based on politics is stupid.

  • That place is gross. They have a parent community that is just trans hate. I can't imagine spending so much energy being a hateful idiot.

  • Defederation should be the LAST and FINAL option. From what I understand, this is a small instance that isn't causing much trouble outside of their instance. Block them on your own! I'm on lemmy.world, but personally I would like to keep up to date on the shit they post. I don't think we should start going around defederating communities that we disagree with, even though their opinions are shit, vile, offensive, and disgusting. Leave it up and block them on your own.

    Edit: 10 years ago I used to be one of those intolerable fucks. Yes - exactly like them. Until I talked to other people on Reddit, real life, and listened to other ideas. I had a change of heart and hope even a couple of them could too. It happens.

    • 100%

      I don't like how r/conservative handles their moderation but I don't think their subreddit should be nuked.

      But things like Men Going Their Own Way, and The Donald or any other subreddits promoting violence and direct hate deserve removal (or de-federation). De-federation should be used as a tool of last resort. For places who are turning to actual violence or outright hatred.

      I cannot stress how strongly I disagree with exploding-head's stance on Trans rights and racism but if someone has an odious opinion on gender affirming care or trans athletes then they should be met by people who counter their ideas. Simply cutting them off into isolation provides zero chance of changing their minds.

      I understand that some people have no interest in debating people who disagree with them, and that is entirely ok. Block any community or poster that you find offensive but defederation is not something that should be used regularly.

    • Yes exactly. Just like there are idiots in real life, we ignore them and move on. Everyone is entitled to an opinion even if we disagree with it. Sure people can spout some nonsense devoid of facts we can down vote if thats the case .

      You might disagree with someone on politics but like the same sports team for example. There are humans on either side so like in real life we can get along and don't need to agree on everything.

      If something is illegal or its hate speech or something like that then report and block the user and the content.

      If you don't like a community you can block it but if we shut off instances all of the time I can guarantee you the fediverse will just turn into isolated echo chambers and we'll all be forced back to corporate walled gardens.

      If we can coexist in real life we can coexist here.

      We need our views challenged to grow. Being corrected is a good thing thats how we learn. Life is short at the end of the day let's not try to take it too serious.

      ❤️

      • holy shit, how do I even begin to explain that you can't just "ignore" Nazis and racists and transphobes and letting them keep their platform

        you do understand that they hurt real fucking people, right????

    • I agree all the way.

    • "personally I would like to keep up to date on the shit they post"

      The shit they post is the gateway to worse things for some. You're still free to go check what's going on over there, it doesn't mean they should have access to our space.

      • gateway to worse things for some

        so you're basically saying "there's nothing wrong with this, but let's ban it anyway because it may be a little wrong in the future"?

  • Not the prettiest instance, but have they caused any real trouble outside of their own instance? Not much of a fediverse if we just defederate from instances that lean different politically. Especially seems like a weird move to go defederating on other instances this early given y'know, that we just got defederated from beehaw because of one misbehaved asshole.

    • I'm not saying we should immediately defederate, but the reason I originally went to check them out was partially because of this comment and the reply from dick@exploding-heads.com

      https://sh.itjust.works/comment/207742

      When he made that reply, it got rapidly upvoted to +7, while my comment was also sitting at about +7. This morning, several hours later, when a bunch of actual sh.itjust.works users woke up and read the thread, the ratio of votes changed in my favor.

      I fear that we are going to deal with a significant level of brigading from that instance, and unlike reddit we don't really have any tools to combat that.

      They also had a good laugh about the troll who posted here about getting us defederated by beehaw. They really don't like beehaw, or gay people in general.

      It's whatever but we are already defederated with lemmygrad.ml and I feel like this stuff is on that same tier.

      • this is an interesting post-reddit effect, we have people of all different types and motives seeking new places.

        A lot of people seem to think this is an all out battle between a new community and reddit. Like we have to beat them or something. The situation with reddit is not a win-lose, reddit would never go dark overnight. A lot of users are just over reddit and moving on. I personally don’t care about lemmy becoming the next reddit nor do I really care what happens to them.

        A big difference to me with this migration is the instances seem to attract like minds. This is going to be a very interesting event to watch how the fediverse grows and changes.

      • I had a look through their hot-page and couldn't find anything on the level of lemmygrad. Do you have any examples?

      • What can I say about brigading other than Exploding Heads having to turn off downvotes for the first time ever due to silent brigading?

        How's our federation affecting your instance?

    • Being openly bigoted isn’t a “political leaning” though, and it’s against lemmy.world’s code of conduct as stated on the sidebar link: https://mastodon.world/about

      Provide a friendly, safe, and welcoming environment for everyone regardless of gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, disability, personal appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, age, religion, nationality, political affiliation, or other similar characteristic.

      No one is saying let’s ban conservatives. This discussion is about defederating an instance that seems to be crawling with alt-right trolls. I don’t understand why that would be a problem.

      • Like I'd hope that we wouldn't follow in Reddit's footsteps of tolerating alt-right bigotry

        Defederating isn't like being fucking censored or whatever; it's people deciding that they don't want to be around you

        Basically near-every instance did this for Lemmygrad with zero complaint, so it's fucking weird that there are so many people complaining now when it comes to an instance teeming with alt-right bigotry

    • Agree. I think blocking should be done on an individual basis unless it truly becomes a problem for most users and a turn-off for new users

  • I support this. Keep Nazis out of my feed.

    • Defederation is de-platforming. These hate communities are able to recruit because let them. We give them free reign to whisper hateful falsehoods in the ears of the vulnerable, all in the name of free speech. They can be as hateful as they want on their own, but we are under no requirement to give them a platform to spread their ideologies. De-platforming works, so let the nazis chirp in their own little echo chamber. Keep their hateful rhetoric contained to their own little garden so our vulnerable youth need not be exposed. It's easy to say "just block them yourself," but that doesn't cut off the steady supply of misguided incel-larva to fill their ranks. Drown 'em out. De-platform them. Defederate now. No quarter for hate.

      • The issue with censoring is that as soon as you start censoring people because you think their ideas are harmful, there are those who think your ideas are harmful. yet the group doing the censorship never sees their own views as harmful. it just increases polarization, echochambers, etc. which IMO leads to more harm, not less.

        I think the way beehaw goes about things is harmful, so should we defederate from them as well? Or are only the things you think are harmful what should be censored? And if the latter, who made you boss?

        sh.itjust.works can decide their federation policies on their own, but defederating over a difference of belief is always odd to me. the mod message that OP shared is clear they don't allow truly hateful speech, they merely have different views on things. same goes for lemmygrad, they get defederated often but they seem quite civil despite their fringe views?

        I wonder if kbin will stay the course and continue federating with everyone or if it'll eventually defederate. I hope the former, and those who wish for an instance that defederates can go elsewhere.

    • hun you're a kbinaut, not a sh.itjust.works user. You'd be unaffected by their defederating if it happens.

  • Don't de-federate unless they're allowing the planning of violence, CSAM material, or actual abuse.

    As a leftist I see it like this:

    Blocking someone is: "I don't want to see this"

    De-federating is: "I don't want you to see this"

    Blocking someone is: Ignoring a person saying bigoted things.

    De-federating is: Jailing a person saying bigoted things.

    If you can't handle people saying shit you don't like then you need thicker skin. If you can't engage in a conversation with a person who shares an opinion that you fine distasteful then you need to seek maturity.

    If you can't disagree with someone without physically attacking them, then you don't deserve to be part of a community. If you can't exist without abusing another person, then you don't deserve to be part of a community.

    • lol, defederating is not anything like jail

      • Federating is like sitting at a big table with a bunch of people in a restaurant.
      • Blocking is moving a couple seats down from someone who's being an asshole so you can't hear them anymore (but meanwhile they're still harassing your friends, you're just ignoring it)
      • Defederating is separating the group so that you're no longer at the table with the asshole and their asshole friends

      Now, in a tolerant society, we should be tolerant of people who are merely annoying. But not people who are normalizing violence and hate. There are people you fundamentally should not sit at a table with.

      It's important to understand the difference between a good faith disagreement and bad faith propaganda and harassment campaigns, which is what the right wing troll farms deal in.

      • Defederating is separating the group so that you’re no longer at the table with the asshole and their asshole friends

        The issue is that you're no longer choosing who you interact with you're choosing who everyone interacts with. You're walking away with a table that other people are sitting at. This isn't Reddit you're not banning their subreddit, they're not deplatformed, you're just adding them to the block list of everyone on your instance.

        You have no right to tell me what I can see and respond to anymore than I have a right to tell you who you can and cannot block.

    • As I quipped about earlier, based on what a lot of people are saying in here it's kinda bullshit that we de-federated lemmygrad then. But to your point we just need a short list of things that sh.it will defed over so that policy can be applied consistently.

      These big discussion threads on the main community here have actually had a lot of healthy discussion in them which is encouraging. All of these things are just initial growing pains that the broader lemmysphere is going through right now to find its footing. Things will even out.

      • I don't know the lemmygrad situation but I'd likely agree. If they're not spreading violence or CSAM or engaging in abusive activity (doxing, SWATing, targeted harassment, etc) then I think the filtering of communities should be left to the users. Moderation is to ensure that an instance isn't overran by spam or bot postings so that the users can communicate.

        I don't need a Big Brother deciding who I can and cannot talk to and which opinions I can and cannot be exposed to.

    • Wait, whats the argument against jailing shitty people? No one's abusing them or attacking them just nobody wants to hang with them in any way shape or form.

      • nobody wants to hang with them in any way shape or form

        Then each person, individually, makes that choice.

        If you choose to not hang out with a person in a cult that's fine. But you shouldn't block them off from every other person, what about the people who are trying to deconvert them. What about the people who are keeping an eye on them to make sure they don't do crazy things?

        Your desire to interact with them should only control your actions, you shouldn't try to impose your desire to block a person or community on everyone who shares an instance with you.

  • Their answer is full of demagogia ... Its scary how its good...

    If they start raid, or to be meaningful we can ban the specific communities or users instead of unfederate.

    I really want to be able to read them (curiosity, see the new words their using etc ).

    For now we should use reports functions and see how its going ?

  • that's dumb just block the communities with a lot of subscribers - aka where all of the users/trolls are. if someone gives you grief about it, block them.

  • They seem to be 3 or 4 active users, I think I know @Wigglehard@exploding-heads.com if he was on votal. One of the most active at the moment. He is far from a troll. Though he may hurt some people's feelings, he will defend your Liberty of speech.

    Now something related : will we ban "fat_people_hate" ? We will ban jokes on any minorities ? Where do we draw the line ?

    Something is clear in my mind : we have to band apology of genocide, war, call of violence, and such. We have to ban what would be illegal in many civilized countries

  • My experience with exploding-heads is they are mostly level headed serious users and not trolls at all. Defederating because one person had their feeling hurt is dumb and ruins the fediverse for everyone

    • Great opinion, let me check your comment history to vett your perspective..

      HAHAHAHA you argue like a child and have 0 perspective. Thanks for the opinion but no thanks.

  • Don’t take it out on exploding heads, I’ll stop posting here, i was only sharing music here. And asked two questions. I have helped several of your users understand how to use lemmy better. I’ve been running a community for big tech exiles. I’m not a nazi, not a troll, this will be my last post here.

    • You can post wherever you like. Ignore the people being bigots, painting entire groups of people with a single brush is rarely accurate regardless of how righteous you feel your cause.

      I'm sure we disagree on topics but unless you're actively trying to harm people then disagreements are just words. People who cannot handle words are weak and cowards just as much as people who commit acts of violence.

      Being able to communicate with people you disagree with is an important component of society. The Internet and block buttons have made people entirely too comfortable, living in a filter bubble and never having to defend an opinion or have a difficult conversation.

      • The thing that annoys me is that when I first opened this community three years ago, I had damn near 400 members of many different genders, sexualities and beliefs and my community was stolen from me by censorship police, i will help anyone understand the blocking feature to not see stuff they don’t like

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