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oscardejarjayes [comrade/them] @hexbear.net

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Trans Megathread from January 13th, 2024 to January 19th, 2024

"Nearly every social event I have attended with [communists] has inevitably had some conversation about linux, furry culture, obscure leftist history, tabletop games, or other equally nerdy subjects"

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hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

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        SwitchyandWitchy* (1/20 (The darkest day in the history of our democracy.) - 1/26)
    SILLY BEAN@lemmygrad.ml* (1/27 - 2/2)
    AshenWolf* (2/3 - 2/9)
    GayTuckerCarlson* (2/10 - 2/16)
    oscardejarjayes* (2/17 - 2/23)
    EstraDoll (2/24 - 3/2)
    Eco* (3/3 - 3/9)

* after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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join the tracha space you nerds, we're ircing

Fact: the freckles on my arm are infinitely cuter when they're not under arm hair

DICTATORSHIP OF THE QUEER

Yes… ha ha ha… YES!

It turns out /c/196's mod team is majority cis lmao CW: blahaj All that concern trolling about how Hexbear is full of fake trans people when it turns out their mod team is full of cissies.

I just introduced myself with she/her pronouns to an entire 75 student class for the first time and it STRESSED me out but it was ultimately painless
- good job
  
  omg Obama just told me good job

when the scam-caller calls you “ma’am”

Upvote to put me back to sleep

My wife had the nerve to leave for work without giving me a forehead kiss
- just ask for an extra kiss next time, with interest
  
  One kiss before leaving for work as per usual
  An additional kiss for missing the last one
  Two kisses in addition as interest and for emotional damage
  4 total. And a head pat just for good measure
- This is an outrage
- how dare she
- fucked up
  
  you should consider divorce

built some furniture for my wife

Being a boy is awkwardly sitting there doing nothing and handing your dad tools while he actually does stuff.
Being a woman is doing the same thing except with your wife.

bit idea: t4t straight couple where the boyfriend is complaining that his GF keeps leaving the toilet seat up

::: spoiler im overwhelmed
My friend has been so fucking weird with me and needing constant unending intense emotional support around her life and specifically around her jealousy of myself and one of our friends fucking. I keep trying to tell her that i cant be a suppirt person in this for her, but nothing changes, and i keep having the same conversation over and over and its fucking exhausting and i just want it to end. The convo isnt productive, and its sole purpose is for her to get reassurance that we wont fuck when im clear and adamant that that us stopping wont happen, because us fucking is none of her business. We all live together and she wants me to text her any time we are gonna fuck but also doesnt ever want to know about it and i keep telling her that its not appropriate or healthy for us to have that depth and style of communication and she agrees with me and then a couple days later asks for it again and we have the exact same convo all over again

Anyway i keep asking for space and she doesnt give it to me and she gets upset and feels like im "leaving her" when i go to my room for distance and space. Im so done with this.
- That's rough, I'm sorry
  
  Yeah, ive ended up enmeshed with someone im not even seeing and i hate it. And its all cause my parents trained me so well to not say no so i keep engaging.
  ::: spoiler sex
  Thank you thank you ill be here until the sex stops rocking my world
- ::: spoiler spoiler
  No i dont think she can hear us that well. I mean, she can probably hear the loudest of the loudest parts of what we do. But thats part of having neighbors and roommates. Idk like i grew up listening to and even falling asleep to the sound of people fucking a lot, and to me thats just part of living around people, especially in the city. So like to me if its like a sleep disturbance thing i would get it, but its literally just anytime she thinks about either of us being sexually active with anyone. And tbh she thinks about it more often than we do at this point.

up with trans
- up with trans
  
  up with trans

down with cis
- down with cis
  
  Down With Cis

LETS FUCKING GO guess who just got prescribed HRT

I'm sitting here on my bed and I can't stop imagining myself with boobs. I thought that was a more secondary desire but now that I'm actually on E I actually can't focus cause I'm thinking about my future boobs

I know almost none of you really know me or care about me and I apologize for shitting up the mega. All of you are so happy with what you're going through that you don't deserve to see the absolute trainwreck that is my life right now. I'm sorry, but with no one to properly just vent to, I resort to coming here. Legitimately if you don't like it and don't care to see this, I will stop. Just tell me in reply or PM. Seriously.

I am happy to announce to you all that the last couple of days have been much better for me, overall
Not much of note gender-wise ~~using a fresh razor helps so much good lord~~ but yea, I've gotten to feel like me again and its very nice.

Bit idea: IT manager with it/its pronouns.
- probably a fair number of those tbh
- Kinda murderbot tbh

I finally got back on HRT last week lesgooo

downloaded bumble again for the first time in a while and the only 4 options you get for your political leanings:
Apolitical Moderate Liberal Conservative
in that order too? fuck off

My face is so smooth after shaving.
I think the laser is working

- Related
  
  So based

Upsides of wearing a dress: looking and feeling cute
Downside: I now want to get ripped so I can have giant arms

hawk you i won't tuah you tell me
- delet this
- pee pee, poo poo,.even

- know the feeling

Having to misgender and deadname yourself at the marriage office sucks
- fr

aww yis first, morning

My department is renovating my department's building and apparently one of the changes they're making is turning our gender neutral restrooms into larger gendered restrooms even though literally no one asked for that. Their rationale is "none of the other departments have gender neutral restrooms" 😞
- Gender neutral restrooms are good, actually, and the other departments should have them.
  If the rest of the department is willing, you all should continue to treat them as gender neutral bathrooms (easier said than done).
  
  I would love to see that happen, but I'm going to be gone from this place by the time the renovations happen

The more I think about it, the less I care about changing all my documents and shit. The name I use for paperwork basically never comes up in normal interactions, and when it does I genuinely just find it funny. Like, a security guard one time who said "huh, thats a weird name to give to a girl, what was your mom thinking!!" or an old ass man who looked at me like Im an alien when
and he looked up my registration. Maybe I'm stupid cuz it might put me in danger or something, but after 4 ish years of being stealth, I don't even care about being outed anymore. Actually, I kinda wish I was more visually trans sometimes, because I know for a fact some of the people I work with and see every day don't know any trans people (or at least don't know that they know) and only hear about them on fox news and shit. Anyways... Ramble over, thanks for reading it :D
- I used to feel similar, I don’t like the idea of the government having an official record of me transing my gender, but at the same time being deadnamed and misgendered on official documents sucks.
- this shit ain't nothing to me ma'am
  
  (similar feels)
  ((would like to get an "x" and my name on my documents but like, I don't wanna attract any more "hey I'm a subversive" attention than I have to and would like to leave
  for good at some point before the decade's out))

i like estrogen because every time i look in the mirror i look slightly more pretty than i did a few weeks ago
- Omg I can't wait

god damn that girl in the mirror is finally starting to just look like a clocky ass trans femme and not just some kind of soft faced guy now this is really nice

ugh. the irl trans people i know are being libs and questionably racist now

Explaining your brainworms to another person makes you realize how much brainworms you have.
Like…Jesus, I am mentally ill

Back on the dating market now that my ex left me, she gave me an ultimatum that either the hawk tuah merch goes or she does.
- you'll have the last laugh when your millions of hawk tuah coins go to the moon 🚀
  
  That and the roomful of hawk tuah merch is what was gonna put are kids through college 😭
- How many millions did you lose on the Hawk Tuah Coin, fellow Patriot?
  
  Lose nothing it's an investment

Something I’ve learned from Xiaohongshu is that goth lesbians very much transcend language and nationality

8 months HRT and I can start to feel my body weight center shift down from my waist to my ass and thighs and it feels great

Bif of a mixed bag on Xiaohongshu regarding trans people. I see a lot of "Don't ask don't tell" sort of responses, including some "We don't care, but it's not for kids" type talk. When it comes to non-binary, there are a lot of "we don't have 96 genders in China" type responses.
On posts by trans and gnc people, I don't really see any negative comments.
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any album that ends with 20 minutes of silence then a bonus track should have the silence removed on streaming services
literally only makes sense on cds

::: spoiler spoiler
Im infatuated with multiple people and it kinda sucks, why must the heart yearn for pretty women to just hold me close?

I just remembered a thing I used to do a lot. I'd have a thought about one of my lady friends that included the word "she" or "her" and it would stun lock me and I'd just sit there thinking about the word and sometimes even saying it out loud and admiring the way it sounded and wondering why he and him couldn't sound as nice and thinking that unfair lol.
It's so funny to me thinking back to how CLUELESS I was in comparison to how obvious things should have been

- I'm trying to clean my room today (complete disaster rn) and I could share some Lego pics later? I'm sorry you're having such a a shitty time and wish there was more I could do to make it better but you can message me whenever and I'll try to get back to you in a timely manner but I've been pretty busy so sorry if I can't keep up a chat back and forth quickly
  
  Yea that'd be nice. Its okay. ty for being there for me.

is it me or do men misgender you more than anyone else? it just clicked to me like 5 minutes ago that women almost never misgender me at work but men frequently do. Am I going crazy here or is this just a normal thing?

I like how "NB" is apparently Chinese internet slang for very cool/awesome.

awwwwwrufff!!!

as of today all of my clothes are "women's" clothes! i'd say i haven't been boymoding for several months now, but now i'm super ultra mega officially not boymoding i guess

I think one of the main reasons why trans rights are such a common litmus test is because it demonstrates how easily someone is willing to live-and-let-live, and to have space for others.
The reality is literally the other way around of