Hexbear has left Blahaj.zone, but the trauma of occupation remains

I hate that they made me feel that way ...

And on that day, no personal responsibility was taken.

Someone find that tweet where someone complained about Bernie Sanders because he reminded her of when her father got angry

- Look, I grew up in a seriously abusive household which caused me constant psychological distress and I can relate to hearing the key in the front door being the "Oh shit, here it comes... I wonder what shit is going to come down on me today" feeling.
  
  What I cannot tolerate is the idea that this is in any way close to what the US and its shitbag allies inflicted upon Afghanistan.
  
  Does this person seriously believe that the counterinsurgency work, the rampant human rights abuses, the kidnapping and literal torture, the fucking war for God's sake, etc. inflicted by the NATO axis upon Afghanistan is in any way comparable to an abusive household?
  
  Do they think that the issues of domestic violence didn't occur in Afghanistan during the war and the occupation, like they were somehow put on pause, rather than the war and occupation compounding the trauma that abused children in Afghanistan faced and continue to face today as a consequence of the war?
  
  Have they no idea how domestic violence rates increase as a direct result from war and occupation? Or do they just have no compassion for other victims of abuse?
  
  Did their psychologically abusive father happen to use depleted uranium weapons on them, for fuck's sake?
  
  This is just gross and a classic case of a victim not only appropriating the trauma of other survivors but using that appropriation to silence the very victims whose trauma they are appropriating and they should be disgusted in themselves for doing this, if they had any capacity for humility or shame.
- there it is
- I had a similar childhood, but this is a ridiculous take. If you're projecting your trauma onto strangers, you might want to switch your focus into therapy and not politics, that's just not healthy
- Thatcher's "there's no such thing as society. There are individual men and women and there are families" worked for killing unions so why not stretch it to justifying imperialism?
- I wonder if this person got their dream of a president who never raises their voice. Someone should find out.

I play my post in attack mode and end my turn

sorry, counterspell - your play makes me feel bad

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kelly

remember back when people said bernie shouldn't be president because he raised his voice when he spoke

I don't remember that, would you like to explain?
- election season produced some takes that are reminding me a lot of this situation, wherein something completely innocuous/outright good (being openly indignant about systemic oppression, displaying a user's preferred pronouns) is smeared by liberals who are trying to associate said good things with bad people, thus drawing a connection that anyone who supports these good things is actually a bad person
  
  they got it with bernie because he yelled, and abusive men also yell, therefore anyone supporting bernie is supporting abuse. the angle taken here is that hexbear users have pronoun tags, and hexbear users are bad, therefore you should be suspicious of anyone who has pronoun tags. they're just dipping into casual transphobia as a very limp attempt at an own
Yeah, that was pretty anti-semitic looking back

God damn, go touch some grass if you "tighten up" at the sight of pronouns.

I think they're saying that we are aggressive with people/pick fights

They have a very different view of what constitutes an unsafe space, for the last day or so every time I saw a username with pronouns my whole body would tighten up, my asshole would go rogue and start sputtering out diarrhea farts like coughs from a terminal covid patient. Every fiber of my body would vibrate. One time I blacked out and woke up to find myself running through the halls of a Motel 6. Nobody seemed to mind until I jumped into the pool from a second floor balcony, shitting the entire time and racing my liquid fecal matter to the water. I landed in a cloud of diarrheal mist, emerging from the slop a changed person. I hate that they made me feel that way about something that should be good. I will not miss them.

It’s like the Eve Fartlow “Free Parking” tweet

the radlibs are tiiiiiiiiiiiiired

surprised-pika they have pronouns!

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When you post so hard you make a common and routine part of speech fry someone's entire limbic system.

no more half measures walter
- Personally a big fan of the three-quarters measure myself.
- I don't even watch Breaking Bad and this bit gets me every time

WTF is this "attack" bullshit? If you're going to hate Hexbear at least be fucking honest instead of this slimy bullshit.

a second hexagonal bear has just flown into the blahaj zone

A transperson afraid of pronouns. Americans never fail to surprise me.

I've unfortunately met at least one trans woman irl who was outright refusing to participate in the pronoun circle thing during a meetup with several nonbinary, agender or not passing trans people in the crowd. Some people get like that as soon as they have the slightest amount of passing privilege. Then again, i've also been accused by transmeds on reddit of "not passing" because i get misgendered and deadnamed on offcial documents due to local self ID laws being held up by the liberal party. There's really no end to how shitty some of these pick mes can be to their own community.

A bit confused. Are we aggressive? Idk I try to not be aggressive

the last 3 letters in your name sound like a growl! Stop attacking me!
I do wonder what they think is the appropriate response to being called a bot or whatever is
I also would like to learn this. Since you people federated I've seen more posts complaining about how aggressive users of this instance are than I did from users of the instance. Yall do seem to think about politics (edit: and hate liberals) a lot more than the average user but I'm yet to see the 'vitriol'

Edit: this is a genuine question. What bad experience is everyone talking about when they say hexbear is toxic?
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- Just as a clarification, our hatred of liberals is not the same as that of right-wingers. We hate capitalist ideology, not "wokeness" or something nonsensical like that. We are the exact people conservatives are trying to shit on when they say that.
- I think it's in the same vein as all the handwave-y claims as the bigotry and hate that's present on hexbear and lemmygrad. Nobody ever links a post, it's just an oft repeated fable that somehow becomes "truth". (Yes, I realise the irony in not linking to a post here, but I'm lazy and I'm sure you've seen them)
- We just
- If I had to be nice, I would say that a lot of new Lemmy users have reddit brain and approach using Lemmy like reddit. A constant game of treating your fellow posters as opponents and trying to embarrass them. HexBear early on also had to work on eliminating this mentality
- The only people with bad experiences of hexbear are bigots and ideologically committed neoliberals.
- we're very active and have an anti-lurker culture + no downvotes, so if we see a bad take, we reply instead of downvoting and moving on. this leads a lot of people to get very animated and angry about us.

My initial response was to feel sorry for this person but then I realized it is just tenderqueer passive aggression.

Liberals when they see pronouns walter-breakdown

Hahaha. Omg we made libs do the gop pronoun thing.

Not sure how to feel about that.
Liberals when **** see pronouns

Hearing the PC of a Hexbear turn on every evening was my own "Afghanistan" for almost two months

Avoiding getting PPB every night was like my own Vietnam
- Getting called the reactionary grandchild of a Wehrmacht collaborator was my own Stalingrad