Captain bummer here:
Most people if this were a guy, would immediately call this out as toxic, manipulative, and abusive behavior
I’ll err on the side of optimism and assume this was just a joke pic, but I did want to shed light on the fact that fucking with your partners food without their knowledge and consent is abusive and manipulative.
The litmus test of determining if there is bigotry involved is to change the terms in contention. If it is bigoted in one direction, it is fundamentally bigoted in both.
You hit the nail on the head when you posited “if this was a guy doing it to his girlfriend” it would be toxic, manipulative, and abusive.
Let’s make misandry as unacceptable as misogyny. Because true equality will be impossible until we do.
Thanks Capt'n.
Toot toot!
So it's been sort of a joke that my current fiancee and my ex both didn't want me to lose weight because they think I look hot chubby. Both have said that they would leave me if I ever did get skinny. As a joke of course, so I assume this is a joke too.
Most people if this were a guy, would immediately call this out as toxic, manipulative, and abusive behavior
...is anyone implying that this is fine, if it wasn't a joke?
Silence is complacency and, therefore, just as problematic.
Doesn’t have to be explicitly stated.
Butter aint gonna do shit. Add sugar to everything he eats. That will pack the pounds on.
Uhh...wut? Gaining weight = more calories in than out. Butter is dense in calories. So what the hell are you talking about?
Edit: yes I realize that sugar is more easily broken down, however the person i responded to said that fats "won't do shit" to make you gain weight. That's just blatently false. Please keep this context in mind before you reply with an essay/rant about fats vs sugars. It is irrelevant to what I replied to. Thanks.
My edit: downvoted for talking about basic science? Not a good look for Lemmy guys... Might as well be on Reddit.
There are more calories sure but he’s going to be full from eating fatty pasta. Feeding him sugar is going to put his glycemic response into overdrive and make him hungry again in a few hours.
Lol that's some awardspeechedit content right there.
Now it really IS like being on r*ddit again.
Edit: to anyone wondering about the deleted comment, the guy was being pedantic about wording implying a different meaning, and then whined in an edit that this place is just like the other place because he got "downvoted for providing scientific fact" or something along those lines.
It's not all about the calories. It's true butter is dense in calories, but it's dense in calories your body will convert the bulk of into useful things it needs.
Sugar OTOH, also adds a lot of calories, but your body will only use a small portion of it and convert the rest to fat for later use.
For nearly all of human evolution, sugar was a rarity and your body treated it as such, the wide access we have to sugar nowadays has only been a thing for a tiny blip of time as far as evolution is concerned
Everybody's talking about carbs vs fat but nobody's talking about how insecure and abusive this is.
Fucking plain ass spaghet? I hope he has something on the side.
It does say meal prep, maybe he adds the sauce the day he's gonna eat it. Otherwise it might get extra soggy just sitting there absorbing the sauce. He could also keep various proteins prepped in other containers and he cna just mix and match based on what he's feeling.
I meant about the gf. She's a POS
#amyfarrahfowler
The butter won't make him fat but the pasta will.
Calories in/calories out. Butter is fat and some sugar and protein. Pasta is mostly carbs. But they all become calories, and if you eat more calories than you burn, they will be stored as fat.
The poster above is correct thay sugar is the easiest for your body to turn into calories, and carbs are basically complex sugars. Fat is also fairly easy for your body to convert to calories, and it is usually more dense. Protein is the hardest, but even protein will make you fat if you eat enough of it.
If you want to lose weight, burn more calories than you consume. Everything else is nuance.
As someone who’s quit sugar and vegetable oils: this food will have more calories with the butter, but it will keep full for longer
This thread makes no sense. People here apparently believe that you can eat sticks of butter and it won't increase your caloric intake for the day? It's basic fucking science. Calories in > calories out = weight gain. Yea, you can eat more carbs at once than butter without getting full, no shit, but it's almost as if people here deny the basic calories out vs. calories in formula. Bunch of pseudoscience morons here. Makes me embarrassed for thinking Lemmy was better than Reddit. There is just as much dogshit fake news here as there is on any other medium. People just wanna fucking argue. Unbelievable.
Your comment is incorrect in many different ways.
Butter is fat and some sugar and protein.
No. The butter in my fridge has almost no sugar (0.6g in 100g) and almost no protein (0.7 g in 100g).
Pasta is mostly carbs.
For comparison: The pasta I have at home have more sugar (most have roughly 3g in 100g) and way more protein (12g in 100g).
they all become calories, and if you eat more calories than you burn, they will be stored as fat.
Are you sure you're not simplifying too much?
Also, "just" eating less or more calories is not that easy if you ignore the side-effects. Carbohydrates will make you hungry very soon unless mixed (or eaten after) fibers, fat and protein. Which you should do anyways for health reasons.
If you want to lose weight, burn more calories than you consume. Everything else is nuance.
The dumbing down of nutritional science and metabolic understanding so we can teach high schoolers a "health" class has resulted in disastrous knock-on effects from which it will take decades for the human body to recover.
Butter has 4.5x more calories than pasta by weight. It has roughly 100 calories per Tbsp.
If she adds 2 Tbps of butter to his meal preps daily, he would gain (or at least, not lose) 1 lb of body fat roughly every 16 days.
