What prevents you from going to bed early?

It cuts into the one part of the day i have to myselff

Nothing gets between me and the best part of the day.

You are the master of your will!

Any parent knows that you can't go straight from doing-stuff to sleep; your brain needs some veg-out stuff to just process things. (I mean, I can sleep, but something unpleasant builds up if you don't let decompression happen)

By the time I've left work, done grocery shopping, made dinner, cleaned up after dinner, done laundry etc, it's already late, and I've had no me-time to just decompress. (especially when chores drag out longer the more tired I get...)

And apart from that, there's a mixture of FOMO, resentment and just clawing-for-agency that makes me rebel against the only boundary I can shift, even though I'm the one that suffers for it.

It's only quiet after the kids go to sleep.

Also, we suffer from this.
- 😯 this is me right now

I AM THE NIGHT

Let's. Get. DANGEROUS
- Dark wing duck!

the factory must grow

unfortunately, I share that same passion. Currently working on a 1000spm factory

Video games, because I don't have time to play during the day.

23:00 - "One last then I turn it off"

01:45 - "Shit"

A 2.5 year old and an 8 month old.

I'm typing this while waiting for my 3.9 years old to fall asleep (she was up extra late today) Then it's time to get her 12 year old brother to bed. I can hear their mom wrangling the 9 and 10 year old brothers through the evening routine right now.
- 2.9month
  
  Is this a typo?
It gets better around 5-7y.

Good luck and sleep whenever you can!
Omg, I can relate! Wish you a happy distraction free sleep

because it skips to a time where I have a new day's worth of responsibilities which sucks.

Yep
That's very true, but there's something so blissful about those rare days I go to bed and wake up at like 2am and just kind of consciously drift in and out of a very light sleep for 5 hours. Just awake enough to think and relax, but not enough to stress over the upcoming day and responsibilities.

I've studied for years and got a well paying job, I cannot just switch to something else without cutting my pay in half. But my work isn't enjoyable, it outright sucks on most days. Going to bed early surrenders the only time of the day I can be happy and skips right to work again.

You’re putting money above happiness and wellbeing ?
- What do you think I finance my happiness and wellbeing with? Having more 'fun' at work does not offset the new problems like worrying about rent or food. There is no happy middleground really, I mostly enjoy things that do not pay at all.

Becsuse that's the only free time i have 🥲

Adhd

Yep. I could be reading a book and intending to finish the chapter I'm on and suddenly it's 4 am and I've read 6 more chapters and about 100 pages to go so I might as well finish it. Also applies to watching a show or playing a game.
Random thought appears. Welp, guess I'm learning all about it for the next several hours.
Same, just lying down in bed won’t do it. I have to exhaust my brain first, then I can sleep.

Not wanting to go to bed early.

Hyperfixation on random topics. The other day I was so invested in the history of mobile phones that I stayed up until 2:30am by accident while researching useless info.

Omg I feel this one 😂 do you have ADHD by any chance?
- never been diagnosed with anything but it honestly wouldn't shock me. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Spite

And malice!
- And my AXE!

Late evening is the time where my mind works best.

But at what cost?
- None. As a student I can sleep as long as I want c:

Sleep procrastination.

Wanting to have a life as an adult after our kid goes to bed.

I don't want to die.

What if I die in my sleep.

What if the house catches fire and I can't escape in time because I was asleep.

There are so many other things I could be doing.

I don't have enough life left.

What if I miss something important or cool.

What if there's a burglar when I'm asleep and it goes south and they murder me.

What if I have an aneurysm in my sleep.

What if I have a stroke in my sleep.

What if I have a heart attack in my sleep.

What if there's a gas leak and the house explodes while I'm asleep.

What if there's a CO leak and I just asphyxiate.

What if I just never wake up for no discernible reason.

I wanna play more video games.

I wanna browse the internet more.

I don't want to have the bad thoughts come back like they always do when I try to sleep.

Ah yes, the "what if I fall asleep and X happens, I should stay awake" anxiety. Fighting the inevitable...
I've dealt with that all my life. Recently it got so bad that I was waking myself up in the middle of the night with these thoughts. I just got a prescription for lorazepam and it has helped more than anything I've tried. I hate sleeping pills because they give me a hungover feeling in the morning. This one just shuts down the anxiety so I can sleep naturally.

My brain lol

If I go to bed early, I have to get up and pee at some point during the night. And since it's way too cold, I'll usually lie awake for half and hour before I can actually get myself to leave the bed.

Hahaha, that's exactly what I'm doing now! Lying here trying to get myself to get up out of my warm bed, into the cold, and go pee so I can lay back down.

It doesn't help that this weather is painful hell on my joints & I keep waking up in an intense panic that leaves me super anxious for ages. Why must our bodies be the way they are!? I want a refund.
You should get a bed pan

Currently? Back pain.

But in general my brain is dumb and does some dumb stuff.

The other night I wanted a nice cup of earl grey lavender tea to help me relax because I couldn't fall asleep. Problem being was we had ran out of loose leaf tea bags. I dug out the small box of tea strainers we have collected over the year only to find out one hadn't been properly cleaned and was slightly moldy. Others were surface rusted or tarnished.

My sleep deprived brain decided that the best decision was to pull out the dental picks, dremel tool, and other cleaning picks to get these tea strainers in tip top shape.

This is how my wife found me sitting on a bar stool hunched over the kitchen sink deep cleaning tea strainers at 3:30 in the morning.

It takes me hours to fall asleep. If I tried to go to bed early, I would pretty much do nothing but work and attempt to sleep.

It's the only time I have to myself

working too many hours and having too many hobbies

Los of work needs lots of hobby-time to keep equilibrium.

I can sleep when I'm dead. I need free time.

I absolutely love feeling sleepy. There's nothing better than the dark quiet night in my cosy warm bed, with my brain feeling light and my eyelids feeling heavy. I edge that shit for as long as I can.

The fact that I'd just stare at the ceiling till at least 23:00 EVEN THOUGH I WAKE UP AT 4:00 just to be tired the whole day as usual until the sudden energy boost around 18:00.

What's the point of school starting at 7am?
The first class looks like this: Students sleeping on tables, teachers trying to not do the same, the only active group of people is the line at the coffee vending machine.
And the productivity remains greatly reduced for rest of the day.

1½ years ago it used to be 7:50. Apparently too late.
Meanwhile I recently seen a study that even 8:30 might be too early, and giving a new recommendation of 10am.

But it could be worse. I've heard from someone on Reddit that they start at 6am. What the fuck...

If your energy picks up late in the day you should research cortisol cycle. I won’t elaborate because I’m lazy.

Procrastination on going to bed.

I don't want to and have no reason to

I dunno how to/if you can follow people on Lemmy, but your comments and posts are hilarious. Cheers.
- ❤️

Insomnia

Permanently Deleted

I resent every moment I am not awake. It takes away time from me not being at work.

I'm not tired.

Discovered a great comics, have been reading it until 4 am two days in a row. Send help.

Here you go
- Fun fact they actually aren't signaling Help on the cover. Apparently spelling help didn't look appealing so they just made up the poses.

My brain ignites right before I'm supposed to sleep...it decides to ponder not only existence but nit-pick every choice I've made that day

Recognizable.

My brain hits it's creative peak hours when laying down in bed in a dark room. It's like rush hour on a busy road.

Girlfriend that falls asleep against me on the couch but refuses to crawl into bed together because

it's too early for bed!

And then promptly goes back to sleep. Trapped now. Send help.

My chronic doom scrolling addition.

I work nights and bike home.

I sign on to YouTube and it's 2am before I know it.

My gf always wants to "stay up late" but usually ends up falling asleep first.

Someone's wrong on the internet!

A good video game. When I'm not in the process of completing a game, I can go out like a light at 10pm.

The fact it's the only time of day i can hear my thoughts without needing to think about studying; or if the situation is dire, because i'm studying

My wife.

Reading this

The night is beautiful - I wanna look at it, not sleep through it!
There's a 30 minutes of waiting after eating supper before I brush my teeth and go to bed.