I feel like "it is what it is" is too often shit on.
I had a boss from whom I learned about staying calm and keeping steady course.
His favorite saying was "it is what it is" and it was always in the context of simply recognizing the reality for what it is, instead of hoping or wishing it was something else or lamenting over how it should have gone a different way. Then, from the point of accepting that "it is what it is" we would focus on how to get to where we wanted to be.
Sure it can be used dismissively, but I feel like people always just dismiss it as a cliche when it's actually usually a very good philosophy.
This term seems like just an insult wearing academic robes. And a tautology. All cliches over simplify the world, side-stepping complex analysis.
There's nothing "thought terminating" about acknowledging that a problem is beyond your scope - which is what the first two mean. I've only heard YOLO used to encourage risk-taking, which is completely different.
Realistically, these are often just social cues that you're bored with the conversation.
Obviously whether you use a cliche to avoid thinking deeper on a topic or for some other reason changes with each use. It's not inherent to the phrase.
Well, sometimes an end to a discussion is exactly whats needed. Sometimes. Like when theres literally nothing to do about something. Or the discussion is going in circles. Or when it would take shorter time to try it out in practice than have another meeting about the best way to implement it.
“Living their best life” and “Speaking their truth” are recent and annoying examples of this.
The first is always used to dismiss self destructive or irresponsible behaviour. The second is often used to make a statement that is either false, manipulative, subjective or a combination. Their isn’t a personal truth, there is only truth.
Something that I often say to myself to end contemplation paralysis is "What's the worst that can happen?" or "What's the worst case scenario?" If I'm debating trying something in the kitchen. "What's the worst that can happen? I waste a few cups of flour and some yeast."
I kinda like 'its all good'. Which I never took to mean it was good but 'what you say when things go horribly wrong' as a joking meaning,aka it's the situation you can't change now so just go with it until you can change things.
Even when i hear those things it makes me want to explore a situation deeper because such phrases are indicative of an ignorant, fatalistic attitude that begs to be illuminated
I'm pretty sure cognitive dissonance is not what she thinks it is.
Cognitive dissonance means holding two completely contradictory opinions at the same time. You can't shortcut cognitive dissonance, I don't quite understand what that means.