Hexbear Gender Survey #2 - Science Edition. Remember to respond even if you are cis!
Please answer all questions in the form below. If you cannot load the site, it's because you do not have javascript enabled or something, try a stock browser. The goal is for this to be pinned until the end of the weekend. All responses are anonymized, IP is not logged, and all responses will be made public after the questionnaire is closed. Cis people aren't shown further questions beyond the first 2.
god, things like this always confuse me. like yes i'm a cis woman, but i use he/him/she/her or hy/hym pronouns when i can (read: online or dnd), crossdress 24/7, have visable facial hair, and honestly i'd go on testosterone if it were free. i was looking at binders recently (because i had them recommended as a heavy duty sports bra and also the silhouettes are just nicer) and the only reason i didn't get one was that my measurements are weird. a lot of my mates keep saying that i should just become a man already and are "waiting for the gender drop" and new people assume i'm already transmasc or nb.
like despite the fact that i'm cis, i am apparently trans by a LOT of people's definitions. idk how i feel about that. it feels like people are trying to limit what woman are and are not allowed to be. there is NOTHING wrong with women who look like me or go into my field or reject the beauty industry or crossdress or date women or anything else. there isn't even anything """un-womanly""" about us, we just don't dignifiy the sexist society in which we live with a response.
but then again, the people who assume i'm trans or nb don't think for a second that they're reinforcing misogynistic ideas about womanhood, they're just trying to be nice
so yeah. idk. i am not by defintion trans in the slightest, but in practice it always seems like i am. sorry if i invalidated the results by classing myself as cis instead of "?????????" lol. i guess theres a reason people treat butches as trans-adjacent
(BUT hexbear is one of the only place i've ever got the idea i can say any thing remotely like this and not get instantly clowned on, so shout out to our trans comrades for making a space thats also cool with miscellaneous freaks lol)
I think the latter part of this survey is just bad.
Asking "at what age did you begin transition?" before any other timeline questions puts the importance and emphasis on actions taken instead of starting with self acceptance. This feels like framing I'd see from people that are less knowledgeable of the trans experience as a whole, which I know isn't the case of the people who put this together.
The bigger issue is the follow up question, "after you realized you were trans/gender diverse, how long did it take for you to begin to act on it?" The entire self acceptance moment of realizing you were trans is an after thought to "how long did it take to do something about it?" At no point are we asked about the first big moment in someone's transition, only relative to what many people wrongly assume is the start of a transition.
The combination of these questions in this order and nothing about the beginning of the journey is really unfortunate. I filled out the survey up until that point, but didn't feel like continuing after that. I know there's only so much that can be asked, but I don't think the way this was formatted was an issue with not having enough room for questions or overloading a survey.
Would you recommend Hexbear to any of your transgender/gender diverse friends that do not visit Hexbear?
Is it a general question about hexbear or specifically in regards to the trans/gender diverse atmosphere? There are all kinds of reasons someone might not fit here e.g. being a lib/conservative, not being interested in fediverse, not being online etc.
After you realized you were trans, how long did it take for you to act on it?
Shouldn't there be an option for "not trans"? "Have not yet acted" isn't exactly the same thing. Unless you are trying to make a political point ala "not yet disabled"....?
The crazy thing is that part of me always knew my whole life. But because there wasn't a word for it I just saw it as something to suppress and ignore.
Aside from this being easier to stack being anon instead of account linked this is fun. I suppose if you get a bunch of wreckers youll see when they responded and just just prune the data
I dont think this'll be as neatly representative as doing it by hand, but also maybe itll account for lurkers (hey, we see you, join us, it is inevitable)
I cant wait to make another 'are you a tankie?' On lemmy.ml
A suggestion to post this in main or chapo and not traaaa? I'm sure we're majority non-cis but I'm curious how much the comm choice skews the results. Or maybe a slimmer one for just demographic data and not feedback? idk
I ended up chosing "other" for question #3 because of the whole politics around "binary trans woman" being a bit of a transmisogynistic dog whistle. it would have been weird to put myself down as binary but also put myself down as nonbinary since it is also kind of like that internally for me? especially when you're a girl and also a doll. such are the complexities.
I think it would have been more useful to break it down as man/woman/third gender for that question instead of an 'binary/nonbinary/third gender/etc'