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Trans Megathread from January 27th, 2024 to February 2nd, 2024

Hiiii!

Today: a short yap about computer hardware:

Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.

Computers are fun! (and expensive)

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  • At like 4 AM a few nights ago, sleepless, I frantically penned down an apparently brand new idea for a gender-neutral pronoun in Esperanto, despite not being a proficient Esperantist. It's like this:

    • geu estas neduuma esperantisto (they are a nonbinary Esperantist)
    • mi ŝatas geun. (I like them)
    • ĉu vi vidis gees katon? (have you seen their cat?)

    To quickly explain the idea: Esperanto has a prefix that (unofficially) forms gender-neutral words, and a suffix that (mostly unproductively) forms pronouns, so I figured that the most obvious way to create a gender-neutral pronoun in Esperanto would just be to smash these two affixes together: ge- + -u = geu. Simple as that.

    To me this seemed like such an obvious idea in hindsight, that when I looked into it the next morning, I was genuinely surprised to find that apparently no-one else had ever come up with this idea before me: all the other neopronouns coined in Esperanto thus far apparently just smash the gendered pronouns together, or take the gendered pronouns and replace the first letter randomly. This approach comes with its own advantages and disadvantages, but in any case my proposal isn't really trying to "compete" with these other neopronouns, any more than they competes with xe, you know?

    In completely unrelated news, did you all know that Margaret McDonald (any/all) is non-binary? I don't know when xe came out as non-binary, but xe's an English-language anime dub VA who I have heard in a lot of different things over the years. I was just watching the movie Tamako Love Story with my mom, in which McDonald plays the titular Tamako Kitashirakawa: I couldn't remember the VA's name, so I looked it up, and that's how I found out that thon was non-binary. Among many other credits, ae also plays Miho Nishizumi in Girls & Panzer — which was frankly the only name I could pull out of my butt, I literally said, "Tamako sounds like whoever it was who did Miho" — and McDonald also voiced Rikka Takanashi in the ever-goated Love, Chunibyo & Other Delusions, and he also played Sachi Momoi in Maria Holic, which interestingly enough is an anime dub that just straight up drops the T slur at one point.

    So yeah, nonbinary pog.

    Also, e's pan.

  • fox news: the school nurse is giving kids bottom surgery if they ask nicely

    actual school nurse: i literally cannot give you an ibuprofen or else the entire school district is getting sued to kingdom fuck

  • I did get measured today fora bra after work. It was terrifying, but I did manage to do it. I now have a definitive bra size and I love it and hate it. 38I/40H. I didn’t expect that large of a cup size. Kind of gave my mind rest so I don’t have to worry about them being too small. Also, I will never buy another bra under $70.

    I was terrified and nervous, but the shopkeeper did an excellent job taking care of me. I’m shocked I was able to do it. Maybe things are turning around. I hope so.

    • I will never buy another bra under $70.

      Damn that’s expensive. My bralettes are 15 bucks a piece. Maybe being small isn’t that bad.

    • A good bra is absolutely amazing, my first few I got from Walmart because I knew I'd be going up a size soon enough and while it worked - as soon as I spent some good money on one the difference was night and day. Plus the old ones wire would eventually make it's way out and scratch my tits, very annoying

  • ran out of prog for almost 2 weeks and got back on, how long are these intensified mood swings gonna last it's exhausting

    i went through the same thing when i hopped on initially and it lasted for a good few weeks but ultimately settled down and i decided the drug was worth it. but if I'm in for another month of this cause i took 10 days off I'm gonna be pissed.

  • Gonna have to remember to ask my therapist if I was able to adequately tonally convey pissed the fuck off while maintaining femme voice

  • In the most recent Larian community news post about Baldur's Gate 3:

    our Community Team took the next most natural step and joined Tumblr - because if the gang are going to star in a thousand slow-burn romance fics, we might as well be there to see it.

    it's like they follow me~

  • In the process of getting a therapist. Hoping to hear back this week!

      • ::: spoiler spoiler It's a small thing for sure. I'll get new frames, the hour or so when I realized I lost them was painful. I can see 90% fine without them and I like my face more than I thought I did, so hooray?

        I haven't talked about high school really! I stayed busy with school. I dated a girl on and off, it was just very emotionally confusing. We broke up a month after we both went to college. One of my siblings transitioned, and the other entered a complicated relationship. These things took up a lot of my parents' energy.

        I didn't really have space to feel everything I was going through, my own thoughts on what my siblings were dealing with, etc. I kinda internalized that I have to deal with stuff alone, I think. I was insecure about my masculinity for a while, I didn't begin to question my sexuality until towards the end of college.

        I relate to so much of what you wrote. I always felt like I was being good by keeping to myself, that I was helping them focus on what seemed important. Realizing that that's a mission with no real end goal has been tough. I assume I'm supposed to be quiet and helpful, and when I want to be loud or say something important, I don't know where or when or how. The anxiety kicks in.

        I have to remind myself that I'm on my own, not like, Forever Alone, just like, I'm doing my own thing. Which is fine! The feeling of needing that attachment is something I'm working through though.

  • Well, the trans support group I was hoping to start attending isn't having a virtual meeting tonight since the subject is first aid (which makes sense for in person demonstrations), but because I still have the sniffles (and it's an hour drive), so I will have to wait until next week.

  • looking through my old discord DMs, I can pinpoint the moment my egg cracked drunkenly venting to a friend about my gender with a margin of error of about 15 minutes

    • I wrote a note in notepad about my gender dysphoria. Which I then read back to myself. That is where I set the point of my egg cracking.

    • My egg cracked when an online friend asked if I was trans because I was using an anime girl as a mascot online and I said "no" and then a few days later I did the makeover mage in runescape and said "maybe"

      • This is basically what happened to me, haha. I was on an ancient ass forum and someone called me She because I had a catgirl pfp and I was just like, "ooooh shit, I'm She."

    • Mine cracked after watching Strawberry Panic!. My poor brain just got completely overloaded with gay shit to the point where it just shut down and rebooted with my new genderOS.

      Edit: Although it still took like 3 more months to fully hatch because I wasn’t completely sure whether I was an enby or just an androgynous woman.

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